UNLEARN by Humble the Poet | Book Summary

Hey everybody in this episode we are going over the seven key ideas from unlearn by humble the poet humble was a guest on my podcast and We had a great episode of great conversation and now I want to go over some of the big ideas from his book key idea number one is that Circumstantial happiness is an addiction When humble was writing the book and learn he sort of analyzed his emotions. He sort of noticed He was getting these emotions that were difficult. He wondered why do I feel this? Where does this come from? And he found that a lot of it was from Projecting out into the future or looking back on the past and then comparing things Against the expectations he had for his future and where things were going Feeling anxious about whether or not he was going to achieve those things getting caught up in this kind of Measured sense of what could make me happy if I get this thing if I achieve that X? That’s going to be something you come dependent on then you must hit that to feel happy that dependence for something So basic as your happiness will eventually become more than dependence It will become an addiction key idea number two is to be like 50 cent 50 is a huge influence on humble two chapters in humbles book unlearn are devoted to 50 cent and I’ve got fifties book behind me the 50th law a great read if you haven’t checked it out the thing that fifty emphasizes right from the beginning of his own book is Realism and that’s what humble was also attracted to 50 has been shot nine times that means He’s seen it all He knows what it’s like to be afraid and what’s worth being afraid of and he knows what’s not and he finds it most everything is not worth being afraid of so he lives a virtually fearless life now a relationship with a reality like that is so liberating and it’s so important in whatever you do something I used to do is I used to teach pilots about visual illusions that they would experience when we’re flying back when I was in the Navy and They would get exposed to these illusions in different ways that we could simulate them or different ways that we could have exercises where we could have a simple two-dimensional visual that could represent it and as it became more posed To these illusions and seeing where that was and how that checked out against reality or what their instruments showed That gave them a strength that made them more Confident and more capable to face those illusions and faced the situations that might bring on those illusions in the future You may not be a fighter pilot or fifty-cent, but you can benefit from realism, too So learn to get comfortable with what’s actually going on around you at first it seems gritty and hard to deal with but a great thing you can do is to actually Confront your reality to go out and face something uncomfortable Head-on will liberate you that will put you in touch with the reality of things It will put you in touch with how hard some things can be and then you’ll also realize It’s not that bad you’ve survived it You’ve done it just like 50 getting shot nine times and surviving. You will be a little bit tougher and a little bit more fearless because you faced reality key ID number three is that self-pity is self-sabotage and humble explains it It’s really natural to feel some self pity and to even get hooked on the sensation of feeling bad for yourself We want to have a good relationship with ourselves humble says the most important relationship you can have is the relationship with yourself The thing is that self-pity isn’t actually Nourishing that relationship with yourself. It just feels like it it’s more like a potato chip than a Fruit, so you want to give yourself something that’s actually going to bring value to you. It’s hard though I had an experience like this a few years ago. I was dealing with a contract and I Thought that I had met my end of the contract. I thought that was very clear, but I was up against a very strong very influential legal team that believed that I had not met my end of the contract and they wanted to keep me in that contract for Three more years. I Was overwhelmed and I began to feel so bad for myself to feel like I’m the only person who this could happen to to feel Like people were ganging up on me It nearly ruined me the self-pity that I felt. It’s like it’s like drinking too much at first. It feels good but by the time you get a little too far in You’ve ended up actually way too far and you feel terrible the next day. What will serve you better and this is another Tip from 50-cent is to get some self-reliance to think about. What can I do to take action to? Move me forward in the situation How can I help myself rather than feeling bad for myself when you start taking action rather than feeling bad and feeling self pity Progress will happen and things will get better key idea number four is to take responsibility for your own happiness Everybody says that they want to be happy but are you actually doing things that will make you happy in the book humble quotes Robin Sharma who says Don’t tell me your priorities. Just tell me your schedule because what we do How we spend our time that really shows what matters to us. So if you’re feeling down assume responsibility for your happiness Adjust your schedule and act accordingly. If you don’t you have no one to blame but yourself Key idea number five is probably my favorite and that’s that forgiveness is a decision to not let things hold you down any more humble, and I could have discussed this one for an extra hour after the podcast and we did talk a little bit after and it’s so weird that Forgiveness is so valuable and yet so hard and so counter to our human nature to hold on to things and to be protective I had another guest in the podcast a couple weeks ago Jack Carr. He’s a Navy SEAL and he wrote a book That was all about revenge and it was a riveting story There’s something about revenge that you just want to follow along with you’re rooting for the person who’s seeking vengeance. It’s very natural forgiveness seems so unnatural but it’s so much more helpful as Humble said at right at the start of our interview hate doesn’t hurt the one you think it does So you gotta forgive you gotta let go don’t do it for the other person Do it for yourself and you’ll actually set yourself free and get a lot off your back Key idea number six is that your comfort zone is really a worldview and it’s not helping you humble prides himself on being an honest person But he said that he for a long time wasn’t Really honest with the way that he looked at things even though he might speak truth. He wouldn’t see things with clear eyes And so he would deceive himself he said this is a Comforting lies are those fluffy pillows while harsh realities are those cold showers You got to ditch the rose-colored glasses and get back to what’s real and that’s going to be uncomfortable that’s going to take big leaps out of your comfort zone to make It happen But it will change your worldview and give you a totally new sense of how to deal with things Key idea number seven is to enjoy an ambitious Hunger humbles not looking to be happy all the time. And would that even be possible? So much of how we experience things is really by comparison We know greater highs of happiness because we know the depths of sadness That’s how human being sense what’s going on in the world? So the game changer with this one is instead of always pursuing happiness and trying to get your next high Instead learn to find happiness in that pursuit These are my seven key ideas from unlearn by humble the poet 101 simple truths for a better life if you want more videos like this then be sure to subscribe and I’ll catch you next time

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