How to Have Attractive Body Language – 6 Body Language Tips to Being More Confident


hey guys it’s practical psychology and
this video is going to be a collaboration with insight junkie on
body language body language is one of the most fundamental techniques you have
to know about if you want to attract someone into your life most people think
a body language is something that you do subconsciously but a lot of times you
can consciously change your body language to communicate what you want it
can be used to convey that you’re important that you have a purpose that
you might be interesting all of which makes you more attractive now there is a
hidden benefit of knowing about body language that most people overlook
social norms don’t allow us to say everything we want to in an overt manner
for example in a situation where you’re not sure if it’s acceptable for you to
directly tell someone that you like them you can show that through your body
language engage someone’s reaction to see if the feelings are mutual you can
create communication and a covert manner so let’s move on to the first step
number one keeping an open body language when you first meet a stranger
especially a cute girl it is very important for you to convey that you’re
not a threat if you walk up to her with a serious face with your hands in your
pockets and she’s probably going to be scared so make sure you have a smile on
your face the other thing is to have open palms people instinctively put
their hands up with their palms out when they want to show that they have
surrendered and this is because of a reason when we show our palms
subconsciously we are telling people that we have nothing to hide we have no
weapons and we aren’t a threat this puts people at ease and it’ll allow you to
get your foot in the door with a girl that you’ve been talking to while
talking to her just keep your palms open in fact here’s a bonus tip for you if
you’re going to shake her hand slightly tilt your hand upwards in normal
circumstances this can be a bit submissive but if you’re meeting a girl
for the first time it can be helpful in making sure that she realizes that
you’re not a threat the next point is also very fundamental and all that
inside junki explain this one hey guys insight junkie here and the
second my voice hits your ears you’ve probably already made a few judgments
maybe you like the sound of my voice or maybe you don’t like the way I talk
whatever the case may be your brain has made a split decision and
now you’re going to be hearing my words through that filter and this is
basically what a first impression is and in most situations your first impression
on a girl will be how you walk up to her having a masculine gait shows her that
you’re in control of your environment and are not afraid of anyone and that is
very attractive you need to walk in a slow and controlled way have you ever
seen a movie or a music video where the hero of the story is walking through a
crowd and he’s have to be going slower than everyone
else that’s because he is in control and he’s not afraid to be in public he
doesn’t want to hide himself behind anyone or anything that is very
attractive so walk slowly and make sure that you look ahead don’t look down on
your phone look into people’s eyes now I know this can be intimidating at first
but really think about it if you get into the habit of making slight eye
contact with everyone you walk by maybe even give them a little head nod and
smile when that cute girl walks by it will come naturally to you you would
even have to fake it and you already have shown her that you’re an attractive
man the next tip is to have great posture
number three posture nothing is more unattractive than a guy who’s slouched
over all the time pull your shoulders back keep your chin up and have your
back straight a really helpful way of having great posture is to imagine that
you have a string above your head and somebody was pulling on it keeping your
spine and neck straight also you need to get rid of your bad posture habits this
means not using your laptop while you’re in your bed on your back eating Cheetos
if you’re using a computer lot make sure to take breaks every hour or so just to
do some stretches and realign your posture I actually recently went to a
chiropractor and he told me the same thing a great exercise that I would
recommend for getting a great posture our deadlifts deadlifts just make your
back muscles stronger and these muscles will pull your shoulders back and give
you the body language of an alpha while also making you stronger another
exercise that you can try is to stand up against a wall with your body touching
the wall and put your hands back on the wall make sure that your elbows are
connected on the wall and then move your arms up and down while making sure that
your elbows stay connected make sure to really squeeze your back muscles while
you’re doing this I suggest 10 reps of these for 3 sets every day until your
posture improves the next point is to pay attention to your feet your feet
while you’re talking to someone can weigh a lot about your intentions if
you’re talking to a girl you just met and both your feet are pointed directly
at her this can also make her feel like you’re coming on too strong so be
strategic with how you position your feet if you’re meeting someone for the
first time then it’s best that you keep a 45 degree angle with your feet as if
you were ready to leave at any moment later as you get to know someone you
could also try squaring up to earth with your feet directly and see how she
responds back if she backs up a little like she’s getting intimidated you know
you should back off a bit but if she seems comfortable or
maybe even comes closer to you and you know that she’s interested tip number
five is to don’t be a spaz this is more of a general tip on how you should
conduct yourself if you’re all over the place moving your arms everywhere
running to everything and in general just being a clown then you’re not going
to be perceived as being very attractive funny maybe attractive nope don’t be in
a rush breathe deeply meditation helps a lot
with this as it will ground you and help you be more present in the present
moment here’s a mindset that you really need to have you are enough you don’t
need to impress anyone you are here to have fun you are confident and secure
about who you are just say this in your head again and again until you actually
believe it it’s called an affirmation fake it until you make it when you keep
this mindset your body language is automatically going to reflect your
thoughts if you’re thinking about your mortgage or your work problems or you
seem to be very distracted then your body language is obviously going to
reflect that and it’s not very attractive so be present and breathe in
the moment and then your body will relax and be at ease and that will show
confidence and just to wrap up this video I want to tell you about a concept
that I got from a great TED talk by Mark Bowden and he’s an expert on body
language a lot of you might be thinking that why should we have to put in all of
this effort to understand body language I mean shouldn’t we just be who we are
what’s the point of learning attractive body language anyway so I want to tell
you about why you need to learn to be inauthentic with your body language
sometimes if you want to convey something important imagine that you
have the most important message in the world that everyone needs to hear but
you go onstage and your voice is very low and you’re all nervous and the words
don’t come out right and you stood all hunched up with your hands in your
pocket and nobody paid attention to you its spite of having a strong message you
failed because you didn’t know about body language in the same way imagine
that the cute girl you’re going to approach is going to be the girl you’re
meant to be with not only that imagine that you’re the best guy for her
wouldn’t it be a shame if you don’t want able to get together just because you
wouldn’t know how to present yourself properly and attractive body language is
like a huge billboard that says that you’re attractive and trustworthy just
changing this alone will do wonders for your social and love
now keep in mind I’m not telling you to be inauthentic in your interaction be
who you are but learn to present yourself in an attractive way if you do
it for long enough what was once in authentic but become very authentic and
a part of who you are and you will be infinitely more attractive I really hope
you guys enjoyed watching this video and I know that if you’re watching practical
psychology then you know the importance of having insight the right insight can
change your life so if you want more be sure to head over to my channel inside
junkie and subscribe I hope you guys enjoyed this video this was a
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100 Replies to “How to Have Attractive Body Language – 6 Body Language Tips to Being More Confident

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  2. This is really only applicable to men. The title mislead me. I'll be on the look out for this inauthenticity though so I can avoid it.

  3. Where do I put my hands when I'm standing in line or something there's no videos on how to stand confidently

  4. Try to build a passion. If you're proud of it, your body language will also automatically improve, since your confidence will rise too.

  5. If a woman likes you
    She won't care if your hands are hidden
    And Hollywood movies have lied to us
    So using them as an example is not washing with me

  6. If you worry about your feet position along with all that other crap you will mess up
    Just clear your mind and be yourself
    Over thinking is your worst enemy

  7. With #4, what if you have duck feet and they are normally at a 180% angle (i.e. one pointing left one pointing right)

  8. your voice is not great a bit to dry and a mix between a Arabic kind of accent and a computer but what you say is interesting that was my first impression of your voice

  9. 1 Open Body Language
    2 Confident Controlled Walk
    3 Confident Relaxed Posture
    4 Position of feet (45 Deegre Angle)
    5 Don't be a Spaz ( nor a Clown)
    6 When it is important to be "Inauthentic" ( I call this being the best version of yourself)

  10. The illustrations in the video basically tell us that in order to be attractive you need a nice suit. That’s all you need.

  11. Nice video, but I'd like to note that while the title and the description of the video are generic, the video seems mainly focused on men, straight men. You know there are other people out there too.

  12. this should be renamed ‘how to get a girl using body language’.

    i thought the video would be about how to have good body language for all ppl in general contexts. not a video about how to attract a girl

  13. Bruh… this is NOT only for men…
    You can apply and you should these tips, but… and here it comes the reason why you think this is meant to be only for men directed – it is because in your day to day life you met a lot of guys who don't care about how much confident you are, actually you can be a total disaster acting like a shy obnoxious girl, but if the guys likes you he is not gonna care a shit about your personality. Guys gut their attraction switch triggered because of the looks while girls because of the behaviors… this not mean in any ways that guys only care about looks and girls only care about behaviors.
    For most of the insecure beta guys out there, it is all about looks but if you (a girl) want some charismatic, charming and confident guy who has standards in your life please don't act like a shy little girl with beta female behaviors (body language a.e)… unless you are a hot girl 9 or 10 so then no body cares… you are hot enough.

    So… this video applies to everybody, do not be so blind…

  14. I am not easily offended but I noticed this and it immediately frustrated me. Please don't use the word "spaz" in your videos – it is so offensive and such a derogatory term. A channel like this shouldn't influence their viewers to use these sort of words.

  15. pretty sure that I'm a girl and NOT interested in guys who absolutely have to look masculine. That's just a sign of toxic masculinity nowadays…

  16. Thought this was an art tutorial on how to make your characters in drawings have more emotion in body language

  17. Mate watching this video and these guys both seem deadly serious then my man just blurts out “don’t be a spaz” 😂😂

  18. I'm sorry but
    I wish your videos had a consistent art style. Maybe you could offer your subs to apply? I'm sure you've got many artists.

  19. Test day

    Me: teacher! Can I go to the toilet?
    Teacher: yes go
    Me: (walks so slowly thinking that I’m attractive now)
    Teacher: GO FASTER YOU SON OF A MOTHER
    me: (runs and sits in the corner of the toilet)

  20. Great video but, I would love it if it wasn't assumed that the only people watching this would be men who are trying to attract women. As We know there are a wide variety of sexual orientations that we're not spoken on within the video ( as far as trying to attract a mate goes). this may seem a little nitpicky and I apologize if it is but I think that being more inclusive would definitely help certain people relate to your videos and be able to apply the information more effectively. Also the vice versa of your pairing would be an informative perspective as well women want to attract men too! Lol

  21. Real method to attractive body language:
    1. Have attractive body
    2. Have attractive face
    3. Be Tall
    4. Have Money
    5. Have Status

  22. I look at people dead in their eyes all the time. That coupled with sharp eyes and huge bags under them, some say I look like I have murderous intent but really i'm just thinking of what food to eat to meet the daily protein intake

  23. Just a helpful small tip: Can u talk slower please? I couldn’t keep up but i was really wanting to learn something new here as your charts looked so interesting and helpful.

  24. 4:55 Sorry, but this popular believe is untrue, If you believe that you can't do it with affirmation you only confirm yourself that you can't do it

    Research Article Positive Self-Statements

    https://www.uni-muenster.de/imperia/md/content/psyifp/aeechterhoff/wintersemester2011-12/seminarthemenfelderdersozialpsychologie/04_wood_etal_selfstatements_psychscience2009.pdf

    Please share this information

  25. So what does it mean if a guy is talking to me he puts one leg on a chair while still standing like ur pic on the video b4 playing it mean.

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