Cinderella: Stop Blaming the Victim


Cinderella has gotten a lot of grief in recent
years for being anti-feminist, but does the movie really deserve this hate? The 1950 film is often assumed to be a story
about a weak, passive woman who has to be rescued by Prince Charming and becomes a rich,
happy princess thanks to pure dumb luck and a pretty face. The film has become a straw man for the argument
that Disney princesses are not good role models for girls. But if we look closer at the actual movie,
this is all a misreading that doesn’t pan out. Painting Cinderella as no more than a damsel
in distress ignores the context of her life and blames a victim of emotional and physical
abuse for being unable to escape her situation. This unnuanced view cheapens what is actually
an empowering message at the heart of Cinderella. This isn’t a story about a man stepping
in to save a helpless woman. It’s about a woman who faces adversity head
on, who chooses kindness and optimism even when it’s hard, and who uses her own creativity
and inner strength to rescue herself. The story of Cinderella is so familiar to
us, it’s easy to assume we know everything about it and watch the film passively. Disney itself now even plays into the Cinderella
fallacy, as we can see in The Cheetah Girls. “I don’t wanna be like Cinderella / Sittin’
in a dark cold dusty cellar / Waitin’ for somebody to come and set me free.” But the criticisms usually focus on our culture’s
shared interpretation of Cinderella, not what the character actually says and does in the
film. “That means I can go, too!” “Huh! Her, dancing with the prince!” “Well, why not?” Sure, the princess culture at large markets
unfair beauty standards and other problematic ideas to young girls, but it doesn’t actually
make sense to saddle this film in particular with so much blame. Critics of the movie probably feel they’re
espousing girl power by attacking the damaging idea that a happy ending equals a handsome
prince. But, counterintuitively, the tendency to dismiss
Cinderella is actually a little sexist. The character’s chief personality traits
— kindness, caring and optimism — are stereotypically feminine. “Cinderella likes you too! She’s nice, very nice.” “Poor little Gus! Here!” Cinderella doesn’t stand up to her abusers
in a traditionally masculine way. She doesn’t physically fight back, make
daring plans of escape, or hold back her tears. So writing off Cinderella is on some level
buying into masculine standards of strength and weakness. Saying her traits of kindness and perseverance
aren’t good enough devalues femininity. And it also unfairly presumes that a victim
of abuse should fight back. Because we’re primed to watch Cinderella
passively, people tend to willfully ignore the context of Cinderella’s upbringing and
the trauma she suffers as a child. Even though the opening scenes of the film
literally state that her stepmother abused her. “Cinderella was abused, humiliated, and finally
forced to become a servant in her own house.” Lady Tremaine is lit in a way that reminds
us of a horror movie. The visual contrast between her and Cinderella
makes it clear that Cinderella has no power in their dynamic, and she has no choice but
to obey. We witness a truly disturbing scene of abuse
when Cinderella’s stepsisters rip the clothes from her body, while Lady Tremaine watches
with satisfaction. Cinderella’s eyes widen in total terror
as she backs away from her stepmother’s advances. And her expression communicates to kids that
Lady Tremaine is as scary and powerful as any dragon or witch. The black background as Anastasia and Drizella
rip Cinderella’s dress frames and emphasizes the terror in Cinderella’s face. The stepsisters leave Cinderella feeling destroyed,
her dress in tatters. And the scene leaves us feeling we’ve just
watched a violent assault. “Through it all, Cinderella remained ever
gentle and kind, for with each dawn she found new hope that some day, her dreams of dreams
of happiness would come true.” Cinderella has to retreat into her imagination
in order to stay sane. Our first interaction with her shows her using
fantasy as a coping mechanism, and remarking that dreams are the only aspect of her life
she can control. “Well there’s one thing — they can’t order
me to stop dreaming.” A key thing our culture often misses is that
Cinderella’s dreams don’t revolve around a man, but around a vision of future happiness,
where she can live free from her abusers. “If you keep on believing / the dreams that
you wish will come true.” Cinderella’s inner strength and tireless
imagination manifest physically as the Fairy Godmother. “If you’d lost all faith, I couldn’t
be here.” It’s when she believes she’s hit rock
bottom that her Fairy Godmother materializes, and the reprise of “A Dream is a Wish Your
Heart Makes” “It’s just no use…” — tells us that she is the embodiment of
Cinderella’s dreaming or her heart’s wish. When she needs it most, Cinderella has willed
a loving maternal figure into existence. Since she has no real family, the fairy represents
her determination to mother herself. The Fairy Godmother’s magic works through
imagination, creativity, and resourcefulness — all qualities that Cinderella relies on
for her survival, as that represent the true powers. Each magical transformation finds hidden potential
in what Cinderella already has. A pumpkin becomes the carriage, the mice become
horses, and Cinderella’s horse, who assumes he’ll pull the carriage, becomes the coachman. Gus’s transformation especially symbolizes
how imagination can help us overcome our oppressors. When he’s transformed into a horse, he’s
finally able to escape Lucifer’s clutches,. Cinderella’s ability to remain positive
makes her fantasy of freedom become a reality, at least for the night of the ball. Cinderella proves that imagination can be
power, offering joy and independence when the outer world seems bleak, and training
the mind to be resourceful. “Well, maybe this is a little old-fashioned,
but I’ll fix that.” So Cinderella’s fantasies really displays
of strength from within, not the passive, mindless daydreaming they’re often seen as. Her ultimate triumph over evil comes when
Lady Tremaine shatters the original glass slipper, and Cinderella reveals that she has
the other. Her imagination and inner strength brought
her the Fairy Godmother, her night at the ball, and thus the glass slipper, so Cinderella
provided herself with the one thing that could free her from this abusive household. This slipper is physical, hard evidence that
Cinderella willed her fantasies into a reality. A glass slipper is the perfect symbol of a
dream made real. It’s made of glass, delicate and fantastical,
not the most practical footwear — even the idea of a “glass slipper” seems otherworldly. But it is real. It can be felt and seen. Lady Tremaine’s act of breaking the slipper
is her symbolic attempt to shatter Cinderella’s dreams, but those dreams can’t be destroyed. So we see that the shoe isn’t a frivolous
accessory at all, but the tool Cinderella needs to break free. “After all, I suppose it would be frightfully
dull, and boring, and completely…wonderful.” For Cinderella, wanting to attend the ball
actually has nothing to do with finding a prince. It’s about freedom, choice, and agency over
her own life. “Oh, no. What do they want?” It’s a much-needed fun night off, a much
needed brief escape from the oppression of her daily life. “Have a good time! Dance! Be gay! Now off you go, you’re on your way!” It’s not Cinderella, but her stepfamily,
who are preoccupied with the prince’s eligibility. “Every eligible maiden is to attend.” “Well that’s us!” “And I’m so eligible!” In the scene where the prince first sees Cinderella,
she doesn’t even see him. She’s enamored of her surroundings, excited
to explore a new place she normally wouldn’t have the privilege of visiting. She doesn’t even realize she’s dancing
with royalty. “Oh, the prince. I haven’t met the prince.” “A prince?” The unexpected love she finds functions as
poetic justice for her cruel step family, who are punished for their vanity and greed
by witnessing the object of their hatred receive the very thing they coveted. Cinderella’s good heart makes her capable
of true love, whereas her stepsisters are far too petty and selfish for a true connection. The experience of falling in love is also
an unforeseen reward for Cinderella’s righteousness and perseverance. She escapes her abusive family to start a
new one that will reflect her values and understanding of what a positive loving environment can
be. The prince is also absent not just from Cinderella’s
dreams but also her final escape. Ultimately, she saves herself. When Lady Tremaine discovers Cinderella was
the one dancing with the prince at the ball, she follows Cinderella to her room and imprisons
her there, in yet another undeniable act of abuse. It’s Cinderella who retrieves the key to
her door through teamwork with her animal friends. The term “Cinderella Story” is often applied
to sports or other situations when someone unknown comes seemingly out of nowhere for
a huge win beyond anybody’s expectations. But the Cinderella in these stories has struggled
and worked to bring about their success. So while it may it look like dumb luck to
an outsider, the Cinderella is generally receiving the just rewards of hard work, grit, humility,
and believing in dreams that seems unrealistic, all things that Cinderella herself exemplifies. “Where? In the trap?! Why didn’t you say so?” Cinderella demonstrates that real kindness
is active, not passive. Rescuing her friends in this oppressive household
is brave and heroic. The film establishes Cinderella’s compassion. She clothes and feeds the animals, and they
show their gratitude by helping with her morning routine. It’s reciprocity for the care and love she
generously offers them. When Gus gets stuck in a mousetrap, we see
that Cinderella is quick to help those who can’t help themselves. And she’s spirited — she doesn’t hesitate
to tease her friends — “Serves you right for spoiling people’s
best dreams!” — or stand up for herself in her interactions
with Lucifer. “You mean, old thing! I’m just going to have to teach you a lesson.” These interactions are important to show us
that Cinderella’s not a pushover. She knows when she’s being treated unfairly,
and, when she can object, she does. But there’s a distinction between this and
someone who represents a truly grave threat to her safety. When Cinderella tells Bruno to stop dreaming
of chasing Lucifer, it’s because disobeying Lady Tremaine’s orders could result in losing
his home. “Suppose they heard you upstairs…You know
the orders. So if you don’t want to lose a nice, warm
bed, you’d better get rid of those dreams.” She knows that Bruno’s situation could become
parallel to her own, and she’s been forced to value practicality over justice in order
to survive. Nearthe end, we see a return to the parallel
between Cinderella and Bruno “Bruno…Yes, Bruno! Quick! Get Bruno! Get Bruno!” At this critical moment, Cinderella decides
that Bruno should disobey orders, despite the danger, because they have a real opportunity
to escape. Her changed attitude toward Bruno reflects
that she’s newly emboldened in own situation. But the help of her friends — and her concern
for them as well — are key to all of their rescue. In the end, the friendships Cinderella has
built through kindness make her escape possible. It’s unfair of us to expect that Cinderella
should be able to escape her situation sooner just by being a little bit sassier. She grows up in an abusive environment where
she lacks all power. Her kindness and ability to cope through fantasy
actually represent her strength and bravery in the face of adversity. In the time since the film’s release in
1950, perhaps qualities like kindness and optimism have come to seem simple, obvious
and naive. But in reality, these qualities are undervalued,
difficult to practice and not at all common. This is a story about a woman who is both
feminine and strong, who doesn’t have to rely on a man, or take on traditionally masculine
characteristics, to triumph over evil. The movie’s not perfect and certainly reflects
its times, but the desire to oversimplify Cinderella as backward reflects a hidden disdain
for femininity. A closer look at the character reveals that
this has been a story about a strong woman all along. “Oh, well, it’s over and…” “Cinderelly. Look! Look! Your slipper. Your slipper.” “Thank you. Thank you so much for everything.”

100 Replies to “Cinderella: Stop Blaming the Victim

  1. Me before watching this video: I want to set a GOOD example for my future daughters in 2034!
    Me after watching this video: OK I understand!

  2. I never thought she was weak, she did what unfortunately was her only choice, marry to leave her abusive home. She had to unfortunately give her body for a chance of happiness that she had no guarantee of achieving. For the era the story is based she was successful.

  3. It's easy to be loud and start a fight when things don't go right for us, what isn't easy is to keep calm and try to find ways to solve problems without resorting to violence. Emotional intelligence and social behavior are things that keep getting less and less attention from parents, teachers and tutors, however, we need those skills to live a humane life.

  4. This video has actually changed my perception about the the protagonist. However, everyone in the comments is a teenager or older, so we can understand the symbolism complexity. But children who watched it like we did, only see it for what it is, and therefore need an obvious storyline with a crystal clear message.

  5. SJWs have no business interfaring with entertainment or what message a story can or can't send and what people can or can't watch.
    I feel like the more we are taking in technologies and getting connected to the world, the more we are losing our individualities.
    Now we need to be politically correct, fear offending people, or statisfy all the social justice mobs.

  6. I loved the part when you say Cinderella just look for freedom and no really the "Prince" but how good it's video to get improvement for your Inglish vocabulary.

  7. THANK YOU! I've been trying to tell people this for years. Could you please do a video on how Ariel was NOT trying to change herself just for Eric? As a feminist, I will say that "Part of Your World" SCREAMS women empowerment! The lyrics, "Betcha on land, they'd understand, bet they don't reprimand their daughters. Bright young women, sick of swimmin', ready to stand! And ready to know what the people know. Asking my questions and getting some answers! What's a fire and why does it, what's the word? Burn! When's it my turn? Wouldn't I love, love to explore the world up above!"

    She's vocalizing how she THIRSTS for knowledge and understanding of a world beyond her own, but feels oppressed by her father's stern rules. She feels confined to life "under the sea", and rebels against that in order to explore the rest of the world. She has the tenacity of a scientist willing to push the boundaries of society to discover the unknown! She's had that spirit even BEFORE meeting Eric; his existence was only what intrigued her further, as it should be! He was an entirely different SPECIES from her; of course her interest was piqued!

  8. Yeah but kindness doesn’t mean letting people shit all over you, yes she’s victim to abuse but like that’s not being kind, that’s her just thinking that she can’t do anything about it. It’s not Kindness. Tho she is kind to animals, she isn’t “kind” to the people who are mean to her. She just doesn’t want more trouble.

  9. Cinderella is always the winner, because who would want to live a life like the evil stepmother or step sisters? They are evil, jealous and envious of Cinderella's strengths. That house was definitely a situation where you would rather be friends with the animals.

  10. the whole movie didn't make me become an anti feminist but a dog person because of how Bruno is considered the good guy and Lucifer is considered the Bad guy (I want to change my profile picture after this OMG)

  11. She was a f**** Survivor. She lost both her parents, grew up with an abusive stepmother and step siblings. She was able to still love and be loved and have a future even though these things happened to her. Think of Harry Potter's past, there paths are parallel to an extent. It is very, very hard to suffer abuse at the hands of others, as a child, and maintain your heart and be open to love.. giving and receiving. Most will become Wicked step mothers and Voldemort's. IMO

  12. Thank you SO much for this.
    In spite of today's feministic standards (especially in movies ) their is a real difference between "strong" and just "powerful". Think of all the women protagonists in movies (Rey, cpt Marvel, etc etc) and ask yourself: Are they good, strong characters who are written well? Or are they just some random over-powered girl who is over-powered because the writers were intimidated by the other well written men in the series and they needed said men to look like dirt next to this random girl?

  13. Cinderella will always be one of the most beloved fairytale princess of all time. The story itself is timelessly appealing. The magical gown, the story of rags to riches, the romance and enchantment blessedly free of modern politics… she will always be a favorite, no matter how much hate she gets from the younger generation. And she gets *way too much hate*.  Is it merely because she is blonde? Snow White was an even bigger airhead but no one slams her. She's is the one who sang about her prince coming. Cindy sang about staying positive and hopeful: "They can't order me to stop dreaming!"  Somehow Belle gets all the adoration because she READS!! WOW! But when you think about it, both she and Cinderella wish for the same thing: freedom from their repressed and stagnant lives.  Only, Cindy remains kind to everyone, while Belle acts like she's better than everyone.

    Kindness and femininity are criminally underrated!!

  14. ''a woman should always smile and stay positive, even when times are bad, she does not get angry, and react to her situation in a responsable an courageous way'' Is the message I get the most from the movie.

  15. Using imagination as a coping mechanism to cope with abuse is the story of my life. I don't know how to live in the real world, and the real world seems hard and exhausting

  16. Yeah, her fairy godmother is kinda like a primitive social worker. My magical wand woulda given her a good degree and a high paying job, but 19th century times, man…

  17. I see the movie in a new light now. I was never at the extreme of thinking Ella was a bad rolemodel but I didnt think she was the best either. Cool video. Thanks

  18. As far as I've seen people don't hate this this movie because of Cinderella but the glaring plothole that assumes that Cinderella must have some seriously weird feet

  19. Yes, people have exaggerated the hate towards Cinderella. I don't think anyone should ever hate her, she was a victim. Being kind, passive and being "feminine" is not weak either. i agree it is a very strong thing to be kind and optimistic. I m a very passive person myself and I don't, in no way, try to be anything else.. But there r times when we r wronged again and again and if we r facing problems because of it, we can't just keep being kind and forgiving, we react to it, it's normal human emotions. And just facing injustice and keep on being kind and optimistic is not the right thing to do. It's our right as a human to react against it. And if enduring the pain is shown or glorified as being strong, it can be in some way giving a wrong message. If being kind and just enduring through it without trying to go against it is shown as a great thing or "feminine strength" or being "feminine", that's where it gets wrong. But it is a very faint line and people can go overboard without hearing both sides. People have different opinions too but according to me it's not that being passive or kind is considered weak but it's just the glorification of suffering in silence as being strong.

  20. If she couldn't appreciate her, Emma Watson didn't deserve to play Cinderella. She would never have been even a quarter as lovely as Lily James in the role. She (Emma) probably would have refused to wear the corset and looked stupid in the blue dress.

  21. I don't want to live in a world where other women tell me I'm not allowed to like so called "passive princesses" like Rapunzel, Sleeping Beauty, and Cinderella — above all Cinderella, because she's my favorite. So called progressive women can keep their Anna and Elsa and Mowana. I'll take my princesses who are actually princesses. Thank you for this video in Cinderella's defense.

  22. A lot of people ignore the fact that Cinderalla grew up in an abusive household and in the movie is only 19 years old, with no income of her own, no human friends. The fact that she was able to stay kind and positive is miraculous in itself.

    Being able to escape such horrible abuse, with no friends, no money, no anything really is nearly impossible. The prince in my opinion represented a authority figure that actually cared for her and cared to help her out of that situation

  23. I never fell for that whole feminazi bullshit as time when on. As a person who experienced physical and sexual abuse at a early age and had to learn to grow up fast and be more cold and calculated ( specially when I was homeless) I was always drawn to ppl just like Cinderella. Not so much them for being abused or relating to that, but the kindness and strength through even the most hard of situations. My best frind and the only person in my 30 years of being alive whose friend I've kept and cherish is a testament that. She was and is my rock even all these years that we are miles apart.

  24. Most people who have these strong opinions about Disney princess movies haven't watched them in years. Seriously, next time you hear someone dragging cinderella, snow white, sleeping beauty or beauty, and the beast ask them how long it's been since they watched the original movie. More then likely it's been years and there basing their opinions on childhood memories and one-sided news articles.

  25. to me the moral of the story (like in a few other similar fairy tales) always was that its better to work hard and be humble than being lazy and greedy

  26. Saying that Cinderella is a bad role mode is also anti-feminine. Feminity isn't bad and it's sad that the classic third wave modern western feminist we know under the term of feminist portrays feminity like hers as something bad … kinda puts being a womanly woman down… isn't that ironic

  27. Also she doesnt internalize it. She doesn't believe she deserves to be treated this way. She is in a powerless position and yet she stays confident and practices quite resistance, while still keeping her gentle trusting nature, breaking the cycle of abuse

  28. Good, complete and very interesting analysis of the film. Thanks for the insights!

    As for the glass slipper… here is an anecdote.
    In Charles Perreault's version of the tale (the French tradition usually goes to his version, the Germans know the Brother Grimm's version – but I'm quite certain Disney inspired from Perreault), it was a "pantouffle de vair" – und "vair" was a small furry animal, now disappeared, I was told it looked like some squirrel. So she actually had a fur slipper (which makes a bit more sense!).
    But "vair" sounding like "verre" (glass), it got confused at some point, and the mistake went on and stayed with the tradition.
    I like your analysis of how the glass is used in the film as a symbol…

    Thanks again!

  29. If there is anything wrong with Cinderella it is the method of liberation. The idea that an individual male or female can liberate themselves from adverse circumstances is problematic given the confines of social context. Cinderella is not socially beneath the Prince. Had she been socially beneath the Prince it is doubtful she would ever have the opportunity to change her status with regards to her sisters. Her problem is to expand her social context in order to achieve social success. However, the idea that only magical intervention achieves this goal has some difficulties when examined under the light of reality. The only thing in Cinderella is the idea that circumstantial change is possible not the reality of making that change.

  30. Só uma pessoa idiota e burguesa tem a ideia de que Cinderela fala sobre uma mulher fraca. Fala sobre uma mulher virtuosa como é citado em provérbios 31: 10 ao 25 uma mulher que não deixa se contaminar com a maldade a sua volta. Um homem procura uma mulher assim porque afinal Deus nos constituiu assim, freio de correção, quando agimos com bondade, misericórdia, longanimidade, alegria estamos dizendo ao mundo somos rainhas desta terra e não vamos deixar o mau vencer e vamos proteger quem amamos da sujeira, egoísmo, ambição do mundo.

  31. Homens não geram são gerados, alimentados, o leão não ensina o leãozinho a se defender é a leoa que ensina. O que você tem ensinado ao seu leãozinho?

  32. But will little kids consider Cinderella's upbringing and make this reading on all these aspects? It feels unlikely to me, and If they miss this aspect of the story or are too young to understand the consequences of abuse on one's life/character, which even adults fail to grasp as the video shows, they may get only the superficial reading: that the good/right/gracious thing to do is to not stand up for yourself, and hope for things to be better. While the last part sounds "opstimistic", it can actually be damaging. In her book GRIT, Angela Ducksworth mentions the diference between two types of hope: the "things will get better", in a very Cinderella -miracles-do-happen kind of way (and can brew feeling of hopelessness if the fairy godmother doesn't show up soon) as opposed to the second kind "I can do something to make things better", which is the kind of hope people with high levels of grit – the endurance towards challenges in life – nurture. Considering this, I think we can say Cinderella is at least on an higher spiritual level to endure everything so graciously and not develop some serious case of depression or become the embodiment of helplessness. I think that particular trait is amazing, her faith in life and dreams, though I wish she would show a little more faith in herself too (altough I do understand why it would be unrealistic, but come on, do it for the kids). Particularly, I don't care about kids watching Disney movies, their fairytales notion will fade away too soon in life anyway, and I don't know how much of it they can really grasp. It sounds lile one of those situations that really aren't that deep. Nevertheless, I do find the discussions interesting lol Being an adult sucks, I was judging Pocahontas the other day for falling in love in less than 24h, until my inner child slapped some sense back into me and I got back into enjoying the movie e the pureness of it all. Any thoughts on that? The grasp kid's may or may not have on the movie, not the slap, I totally deserved it… Pocahonta's is my favorite, by the way! Which Disney Princess is your favorite?

  33. As a survivor of human trafficking, I approve of your take on this movie and the movie. 🙂 Cinderella was a great help and solace to me, growing up. 🙂

  34. 10:12 That's just what cats do. I never swept a hard floor with a cat around who did not roll in the pile of dirt.
    Why do they do this specific thing when they're otherwise neurotic little clean freaks? No one knows.
    I get that Disney animals are sentient but… he's still a cat.

  35. I'm 46 and to this day, whenever I watch this movie I'm moved to tears when the stepsisters tear her dress up. We feel like we just witnessed a violent assault because that is exactly what it was.
    Btw, I never noticed till you pointed it out that Lady Tremaine is lit like a horror movie villain. Wonderful and fascinating observation!

  36. Cinderella spent most of her life slaving after her nasty stepmother and stepsisters. I think she's entitled to a little R&R as a pampered princess 😛 But on a more serious note, she is actually a good role model. She was a hard worker who persevered through tribulation and retained her kind and gentle nature, not allowing her circumstances or tormentors to change who she was as a person. I think she'd be in Hufflepuff. 🙂

  37. That's was totally great now I can think different with this new perspective about Cinderella. A great message kindness and soft in a person also show strength and strong. Thanks for this knowledge.

  38. Tho I never really liked any of the official Disney princesses I could understand this much
    When I was a kid I remember one of my cousins was making fun of my mom and comparing her to Cinderella
    So 6yo me go you cried coz your father told you you can't get a new dress that you're only wearing once. I would love to see what you do if you had non to begin with
    ..maybe that was too much information 😂

  39. Cinderella strikes me as biding her time. You only need to look at her internal life and relationships and strong body language to see that this is not a broken woman.

  40. I watched cinderella too many times as a 4 year old to 10 , I was too young , but I never ever ever felt I need a "man" or "magic" or anything like that , all I learned was holding on to hope and not letting anything bring me down easily , at the end I will overcome it ,
    I'm so sick of parents not knowing how to grow a child
    And feminints need to fight for child marriage , poor condition of woman in third world countries not a princess from many years ago that could not hurt anyone

  41. I love Cinderella. It shows that the sweet, kind, gentle girl gets rewarded at the end, and that the wicked suffer. The best reward is to be honored in the face of the enemies who've hurt you for so long. It's a lesson that inner prayer can be answered. At the end of the story, when the prince falls in love with her, it's not her facial beauty, or some superficial, fleeting attraction. It's her inner essence that he senses on her face, because he, too, is a righteous man and he seeks out true goodness. The 'ugly stepsisters' represent whatever is 'ugly' in our world; the evil, the wicked. And G-d always listens to our tears. It's a lesson when you hit rock bottom and pour your heart out to Heaven, like Cinderella did when the sisters tore her dress, thats when the salvation comes forth in the form of a fairy godmother.
    It unfortunately doesn't always seems like it works like this in our world, but that's why Walt Disney wrote it as a 'fairytale', a 'fairytale' is an ideal image of what our world should look like, and what we could strive to make it.

  42. I've been told all my life that the world is going to "eat me alive" since I try to be kind and forgiving. I've had dozens of people over the years try to coach me to be more assertive, more dominant, more like them. Well guess what? Most of those people are perpetually unhappy, and I absolutely love my life. I feel like the luckiest person in the world over how my life turned out, and I don't have hatred for a single person poisoning my soul and leaching that happiness away.

  43. I have always thought that the main male figures in movies like cinderella or pretty woman were saved by the heroines, not other way round. Why do people always assume the amount of money or social status are enough to save someone?

  44. thank u, those "woke" femenists these days just ignore contexts and things just to benefit their warped and flawed point of view

  45. The only princess I never liked was Little mermaid. Seriously, she traded her tail for legs and left her family for some handsome guy, who wasn't into her at all. Happily slept near his bedroom door like a dog… And the "happy ending" was only in Disney version. She died in the original one. Not a good story for girls.

  46. Modern-day feminism tries to teach us there are no differences between men and women. That is simply not true. While personality characteristics, interests, and capabilities lie on a scale, so a woman can be physically stronger than even a majority of men, and a man can love sawing and fashion more than many women, the means are shifted for men and women, and in this sense there are things like feminine personality or masculine interests. We should be valued the same, we should have the same opportunities, but we cannot be seen as exactly the same in all aspects of our beings (the same way as we should kick neither dogs nor cats and we may love either, but cats and dogs are still different – in their case species, in our case, simply, gender). Wanting a woman to be strong the same way a man is isn't equality, it is the very opposite – it takes from us the choice to be ourselves, to be strong our own way. And it is not even the only problem with modern thay feminism. In many regards, that what has grown from the strive for the emancipation of women became one of the worst enemies our emancipation ever had.

  47. Dude, I remember when in kindergarten, the other girls hated Cinderella because all she does is clean in her movie. I remember I told one of the girls, "W-Well… At least she doesn't SLEEP during her movie!!" because I was really offended. 😂

    Even as a 5 year old, Cinderella was my favorite Disney princess because she's so nice to everyone even to her family that have mistreated her throughout her life. I respect that lady.

  48. I find Cinderella to be quietly intelligent as well as optimistic, compassionate, and resilient. For example, when Tremaine receives the invitation to the ball, Cinderella immediately asserts her right to attend too. Even after being mocked by Anastasia & Drizella, she holds her ground through reason by reading between the lines of the invitation by countering, "Why not? I'm still a member of this family." She didn't play the victim or try to use emotional appeals (even though she has every right to do so)…she served up cold and hard logic. Even Tremaine couldn't refute this basic fact. Though her step-family tried their best to to humiliate and degrade her, they never succeeded in robbing her sense of self-worth & dignity.

  49. The scene where Tremaine and her daughters destroy Cinderella's dress is probably the most difficult scene I've ever had to witness in a Disney film. Also, the fact that the pink dress that Cinderella wore actually belonged to her late mother makes this scene a million times more horrifying and heartbreaking to witness. Not only has she been brutalized and humiliated by this incident, but she probably lost the only memento she had of her mother. Think about how devastating and traumatic that must feel. She basically lost the only thing she could truly call hers. She lost the possession contained deep sentimental value, that evoked distant memories of warmth, love, security, and happiness. It's like a ship that has lost it's anchor. Personally if I were in her shoes, this experience would totally shatter my spirit.

  50. The princesses are perfect female role models. Women have always been treated secondary. The princesses could be feminine and teach lessons on situations many women find themselves in. They aren't weak, they're just in feminine roles. For some reason, that's now seen as a negative thing.

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