Body Language: You’ve probably heard the saying that seventy percent of all communication is portrayed through body language think about it before someone even open their mouths we already start assuming what they’re like just from the way they carry themselves that’s why in this video you’ll learn exactly how to portray confident attractive and respectable body language we’re going to cover everything from your feet to the expressions on your face and we’re going to make sure you have a full understanding of why certain types of body language are good and why certain types are bad so starting with the feet you want to make sure that your feet are shoulder length apart with your toes pointing outward why well the rule of thumb when it comes to body language is that closing off your body is associated with nervousness and fear hypothetically if someone was about it hit you your instinct would be to close off your body to cover your organs and genitals open body language on the other hand is associated with feeling relaxed calm and confident so having your feet apart toes pointing outwards is open while having them together pointing inwards is closed moving onto your hands do not keep your hands in your pocket do not cross them do not have one hand holding the arm of the other hand and if you’re at a party do not hold a drink covering your chest all of these are forms of closed body language so what should I be doing with my hands and arms instead it’s best to keep your hands at your sides relaxed even if you have a drink if you’re speaking with someone you can use your hands to emphasize certain points if you want to ask me to adjust one part of the body that would have the biggest influence on how people perceive you it would have to be the chest this is actually the area that people have problems with the most a lot of us have what are called rounded shoulders shoulders arcs forward pass the next largely due to our culture which is increasingly dependent on computer usage the ideal way to hold your chest is to have your chest out words and your shoulders back like in this image here for those of you who have a posture problems with the years of computer usage there are a lot of exercises out there that will help straighten your back and fix your shoulders moving on to the head you should stand straight with your head in line with the rest of your body your head should be facing forward you don’t want to tilt it down as it seems to some misses you don’t want to tilt it up too much as it seems to arrogance the face is a large part of how people perceive you during interactions there are two things that you want to focus on the first is I contact chances are if you’re watching this video you’re not making enough i contact especially if you’re a male strong eye contact is a huge indicator for confidence i’m sure you’ve met people seemed totally normal but just could not maintain eye contact this makes the interaction feel very uncomfortable and they come off as very very unconfident the magic ratio you want to maintain is a t20 you want to spend eighty percent of the time during the conversation making eye contact and twenty percent of the time letting your eyes wander this way you seem very confident very interested in what the other person is saying but at the same time you don’t come off as creepy the second thing you want to focus on is your smile do not have one of those giant teeth showing smiles plastered on your face 24-7 because well it actually seemed nervous these smiles seem forced and speak instead it’s best to have a subtle grin like you’re having a good day this projection or of happiness but seems genuine and not forced now don’t get me wrong it’s perfectly okay to smile with the teeth but save it for those special occasions now that we’ve covered what good body language looks like let’s talk about how you should move your body the world of dumb when it comes to movement is slow slow slow the slower you move the more confident you seem a lot of us are problems of fast digital movement you know we like to touch our face or player for hands and this just screams arm nervous it makes you look like you’re on the edge all of the time the reason we want to stray away from nervous behavior so much is that emotions get transferred if you’re nervous the people you’re interacting with will feel uncomfortable as well they feel as if something is wrong and this hinders your overall likability well how should we move honestly you can move pretty slow without it looking weird just don’t move too slow like you’re in the matrix the last concept we’re going to talk about is space this relates a lot for the open and close body language concept that we spoke about earlier the more space you take up the more comfortable and confident you seem when you a desk spread your belongings don’t be afraid to have some space between your phone and your notebook but don’t be that guy who takes up three feet with his book bag and jacket when you’re sitting don’t be afraid to sit with your legs apart drape your arms on the chair next to you if it’s empty do not be afraid to open up your body and that’s it if you want to be perceived as more confident look more attractive and gain more respect you just have to keep in mind these concepts stay away from close body language move slower take up more space and increased amount of eye contact you make by making these changes i can all hundred percent guarantee you’ll see an improvement in your social interactions whether beyond think during meetings at parties or even just hanging out with your friends

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